Early in my priesthood I read a book by Henri Nouwen (see below) which helped me understand the interplay of love and fear which is central to all of life. Nouwen used the metaphors of The House of Love and the House of Fear to illustrate both Jesus’s central passions and what drove Jesus’s detractors to kill him.
Love and Fear have their own distinct palpable energies which either encourage or impede creative thinking, wisdom, connectivity, and fruitful action. My foundational book, 8 Habits of Love, unpacks the dynamics of love and fear and how we can become aware of and liberate ourselves from the grip of fear.
Henri Nouwen’s LifeSigns
A book describing how love and fear operated in Jesus’s life and ministry.
Rabbi Edwin Friedman’s Generation to Generation and Failure of Nerve
Two books describing how chronic anxiety operates in families, congregations, and other emotional systems to obstruct maturity and courageous and differentiated leadership.